6 Things that give me mom guilt

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Mom life is funny. The second I am away from my kids, I miss them. Dean and I just booked our first big trip since having both the kids, and it’s not for FIVE months but I ALREADY miss the kids. What is wrong with me?

We all know that being a mom is exhausting; sometimes it’s physical, sometimes it’s mental. Sometimes mom life makes me want to pull my hair out. Sometimes it’s frustrating. Sometimes it’s maddening. Sometimes it’s boring.

Don’t get me wrong. I love my kids more than anything in the world. All I do is think about them ALL day long. They are the best part of my day. But sometimes Momma needs a break, am I right?

These are some things I do to keep my sanity as a mom but make me feel guilty afterwards:

  1. I count the minutes until bedtime. I do love my kids, and I don’t do this everyday but those hours on a day like this can certainly drag on.
  2. I lock myself in the bathroom. I don’t do this often, and I only do it when Dean is home. But I will stay in there and let the kids pound on the door screaming for me while I organize cabinets, try out different nail polish, etc. etc.
  3. Let all hell break loose while I eat chocolate upstairs. The kids may be screaming at each other and there is the sound of toys crashing down but I’m still upstairs just eating my chocolate. If someone was hurt, they would come tell me. Yup…I’m the world’s worst mom. Please don’t judge me.
  4. Pretend I am not on my phone. But I am. I am not good at make believe play – never have been. When I was a kid, I was always crafting. That made sense to me. Playing pretend did not. I actually used to have “stationary stands” instead of lemonade stands, and I would try to sell paper that I had decorated. Haha. So sometimes playing baby over and over again can get a little tedious. Momma needs an outlet.
  5. Take my kids to daycare when I am off of work. I mean, is there anything better than being ALONE in your own house?! Before kids, I never knew how much I would appreciate this but it is AMAZING. It’s honestly like being on vacation.
  6. I don’t let the kids help me. We all know that kids learn through doing, yada yada yada. But sometimes, I just want to get something done QUICKLY. Chloe loves to help me make my lunch at night but it means that a task I already loathe takes 20 minutes instead of 5. Sometimes, I just need to get the show on the road.

What gives you Mom Guilt?


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Blue Apron Review

I realize that I am a little late to the Blue Apron Game but really, who has time to cook these days? I was reluctant to try it because my kids barely allow me time to cook taco meet. I had no idea how I was going to spend 45 minutes cooking a meal. But alas, I was sent a box, so I decided to give it a try.

I thought, “I’ll cook it on Sunday night when Dean is home so that way he can keep the kids busy.” Well, lets be honest here, those kids never leave my side. I’m pretty sure Dean was sound asleep in the basement (insert your choice of emoji here) for most of the time I was cooking and disciplining. So I had two little helpers. The pictures below were right before I banished them to the bar stools.

I successfully got everything prepped with minimal damage from the kids. They did squish the butter, and almost spilled the Apple Cider Vinegar on the floor but most of the food came out of the prep unharmed. It didn’t take nearly as long as I thought it would, so that was a big plus.

I was really excited about the choice of vegetables. The kids and I always love a good, fresh vegetable. Of course, they wouldn’t touch these (keep reading).

 

Give me all the cauliflower!

Pros:

I must say, I thought the dinner was delicious and very fresh. Dean even ate a few of the vegetables. And it wasn’t nearly as complicated as I thought it would be. We tried new vegetables that I never would have thought of buying. There were also no leftovers. Dean did say that it tasted like something from a restaurant. It’s hard to please Dean’s palate so that’s a BIG pro.

Cons:

There were no leftovers. The portion sizes are small! I picked the meal for a family of four which I thought would be more then enough food since two toddlers can’t possibly eat that much, and honestly, they didn’t eat that much. There is no way that this meal could have fed four adults. I could also easily recreate this meal for about half the cost of what Blue Apron charges. Sorry Blue Apron!

I loved grilled vegetables but my kids don’t so they wouldn’t eat the vegetables even though they normally gobble them up. I ended up making a separate veggie for them entirely. That’s not really a Blue Apron “con” more of just a general life “con”.

So all in all, I would try Blue Apron again but there is no way that I could do it after a long day of work, before Dean is home, while the kids are crabby. I do think it would be a great replacement for all of the ordering out we do on the weekends.

Do you Blue Apron?

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Sara

 

Nobody Said Having Kids Would Be Easy

It’s 4:00 pm on a rainy Saturday, the “witching hour”, as us moms have come to know and dread. You have been up since 6:00 am. You have played with every toy in the house and then some, you have painted, you’ve made obstacle courses, you’ve built a fort, watched tv, eaten all the snacks, and there is still four more hours until the blissful freedom of bedtime.

The kids are now fighting. They have had enough sharing for one day. Your son performs one of his signature wrestling moves on your daughter. She bites him. Crying ensues. You are arguing with your husband about anything and everything from why the kids can’t behave to what to eat for dinner. Your house is in a complete state of chaos. Toys cover every square inch of your home.

You struggle through preparing dinner while your kids hang all over you, pull at your clothes, whine, and rub boogers on your jeans. You somehow manage to get dinner on the table only to watch your son throw all of his ketchup covered food on the floor.

It is now 8:00 pm. You survived the bedtime routine. The kids are finally asleep! Kudos to you. Dishes and laundry can now commence. By the time the house is cleaned up and the chores are done, you are too tired to even start a movie. You sip a glass of wine and attempt to watch Netflix without making lists in your head while your husband snores on the couch next to you.

Nobody ever said having two kids would be easy. It still boggles my mind how one kid feels like one kid, while two kids feels like 10 kids. I follow so many moms on Instagram and wonder what I am doing wrong. How are they making it look so easy while I can barely find the time to brush my teeth? I can count on one hand the number of times I have actually blowdried and curled my hair since my daughter was born in 2014. I don’t paint my nails anymore, I paint a three year olds instead. The only time I am ever able to get showered and dressed is if I wake before my children which means getting up between 5:00 and 6:00 am.

Evenings are even harder. There’s wrangling two kids into the bathtub, and then trying to keep them there long enough to wash them but not so long enough that they start trying to drown one another. There is crying and yelling, ultimatums, and empty threats. At the end of it all, the battlefield that is bedtime leaves you battered and scarred, and you have no energy left for anything but internet surfing and Facebook stalking.

But no matter how tough it gets, and man will it get tough, I wouldn’t change a second of it. Because for every tough second, there are 1000 sticky kisses and “Momma up’s” and sweaty hugs that make it all worth it. And boy, is it worth it.

That’s the funny thing about motherhood.

Read a previous post about motherhood truths, here.